1 Why is it acceptable to feel stressed, pain, anger but feeling pleasure is not talked about?
Why is it acceptable? Misery loves company. Lets face it we all suffer in some ways, its good to know were not alone. Most people are negative by nature, pessimism is easily understood and related to. But, the main reason I believe that the un-pleasurable things are talked about is because we find them personally unacceptable. All of these feelings, (stress, pain, anger) cause a tension that has to be released. Instead of dealing with the issues in a healthy way, by facing their true causes for relief, its easier to vent to others to try to find some easy relief. “Why me” “Poor me” “Its not fair” “I can’t take it anymore” “How could this be done to me” People want to share all of this suffering to get their bullshit co-signed. When others can agree with all of the crap your dishing out, it makes you feel better. All that this does though is propagate the negative attitudes, behaviors, and character traits that really need to be addressed. I always warn people that my advice may not be the answer your looking for.
Why is pleasure not talked about? The main reason is because there is no tension, there is nothing to vent. Pleasure and good feelings can be self-absorbing. Some people are also concerned that talking about good things will make it seem like their bragging or showing off. Pleasure is also fleeting, its hard to drag it past the moment. That is what makes pleasure so powerful - its fleeting. Many negative emotions can be self-perpetuating (they can feed off themselves - like anger can turn into resentment).
2 Why do people need to suffer?
The short answer is that “pain is mandatory, but suffering is a choice” I can give you the long answer, but it will take a bit. If you want it, post the question again and I’ll try to give you a deeper take on what I think about it.
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