[A question posed at another recovery site] ----------
“I'm interested in hearing people's perspective on this: Would you suggest your sponsee becoming a sponsor after finishing the 12 steps, but with less than a year sober?”
[My response] --------- I think it's a bad idea, even though technically there is no set clean-time before being a sponsor rule.
Personally, I think even 12 months is not enough time and simply completing the 12 steps not sufficient. A knowledge of the complete steps is a big move towards sponsorship, but the EXPERIENCE of LIVING the steps over a period of time (varies with the person, but certainly more than a year) gives a sponsor a true UNDERSTANDING of the steps. It's the understanding THROUGH experience that really empowers a sponsor to do their best at sponsorship.
This doesn't mean that one can't 'give back' in other ways before they are fully prepared to be a legitimate sponsor to someone. I've seen MANY instances where the ones that insist on 'rushing' into being a sponsor wind up drunk themselves!
I believe this to be, because they are still motivated by ego, other selfish reasons, and want to find a way to avoid continued deep reflection on their own issues.
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